Seriously, even a HB8 you see in a bar...legs up to her arse in short denim shorts and some classy top in heels looking amazing...shes got low self-esteem. That doesnt mean go and poor compliments on her...because then they think you only want one thing. She just wants to meet someone interesting. I always try to lift self-esteem re: her life, her ambitions....exams and dissertations if a student, work if older.