welcome to the community man! im new myself, and i get what you mean about building comfort too soon. mortal enemy of the friend zone its like learning to drive (a better analagy for me, as im younger and learning to drive :L) but just get your method down, make it a pattern, itll soon be second nature as for kino, which is something i was the oposite at, overdoing it etc, just react to ioi's, and the best spot is tapping their upper arm, its not creepy, but just clase enough to show some intimacy, and AVOID touching the face, trust me, thats an instant creeper :L